How hard is it to make a lip balm with an SPF rating of at least 15–and preferably 30 or higher–that has adequate UVA protection (zinc oxide, titanium dioxide, or avobenzone) and does not contain a) useless irritating crap (”soothing” mint, ginger, etc. etc. etc.) that is supposed to be a positive feature but actually does nothing but cause you to use more and more of the product because of the irritation, b) ridiculous and nauseating saccharine-based tropical, fruit, or other “flavors,” as I neither need nor wish to eat my lip balm (DO YOU HEAR ME, BLISTEX? I WILL NEVER BUY YOUR PRODUCTS AGAIN), or (and I’m really reaching now), c) parabens, phenols or other commonly allergenic/irritating ingredients? I’m not even ASKING for things like antioxidants and whatnot, or specialized solutions like a vegan option for my friend who is allergic to beeswax.

You should be able to find something like this in the drugstore for a couple of bucks with no problem whatsoever. Meanwhile I do internet searches and largely fail to find anything that is halfway suitable, if the manufacturer deigns to allow even drugstore.com to post the full ingredient list, never mind rinky-dink sites that don’t post ANY of the ingredients for otherwise-promising products. (Hint: If you say “SPF 15″ but do not tell me what is in the product, I do not believe you and will never buy your product. If you demonstrate that the product does have SPF 15 but only provide the absolute minimum of information allowed by law as regards the remaining ingredients, I get mad and will never buy your product.) Also, you really hate to pay shipping on A LIP BALM that you have to order online.

I feel like advancements in science and consumers becoming more savvy, largely due to watchdogs like Paula Begoun and knowledgeable users of internet communities such as acne.org, have greatly improved the quality of sunscreen lotions in recent years–you rarely find one anymore that doesn’t have UVA protection, many options are fragrance-free, you can get antioxidants and anti-irritants in even some inexpensive products, and therefore I have a large selection to choose from these days when trying to pick a sunscreen that works with my sensitive, acne-prone skin. Lip products, however, seem to still be in this 30-years-ago snake oil phase where they tell you something does something but don’t reveal what is in it or how it is supposed to work, and instead continue to use outdated formulations and load them up with non-functional ingredients that “tingle” (so you’ll think the product is doing something, I guess) and heavy fragrances. I hate it when consumer-products companies treat me like I’m stupid.

(Speaking of Paula, I generally love her products, but the Moisturizing Lipscreen SPF 15 is a rare total fail for me. It is super-white and therefore makes me look like a clown, and is really soft and messy. The Sheer Cream Lipstick SPF 15, on the other hand, is a great product and comes in a colorless version, but considering how much of the stuff I go through–I had some dark spots on my lips biopsied some years ago that seemed to be sun damage, so I am now paranoid about lip protection, and I spend a lot of time outside running and doing yard work–I hate to pay that kind of money for such a small amount. I guess rewarding the only company that doesn’t seem to regard me as a complete clueless sucker is probably the right thing to do, though.)

Does anyone else remember this brand of athletic wear from the ’80s called “Le Coq Sportif”? (And apparently it still exists). Correct me if I’m wrong, but doesn’t this refer to something like an athletic chicken? And why didn’t I think this was strange at the time?

A friend of mine recently contacted the anti-abortion organization LifeNews.com in protest of a recent call to action they sent out to their members, targeting author Judy Blume. Read what my friend had to say–and decide for yourself who was “harassing” and “threatening” whom in this scenario.

I don’t usually write notes, but I’m so upset that I am asking you all to read through this if you have the patience, and then please email LifeNews.com, send a donation to Planned Parenthood, re-post this on your page, or do anything else you can to combat this kind of hateful bullying.

So in case you haven’t heard, an anti-choice, radical conservative group called LifeNews.com sparked an outrage when they chastised author Judy Blume for “supporting the abortion business” and listed Blume’s contact information, urging readers to send her their complaints because Blume sent out a Mother’s Day fundraising letter for Planned Parenthood. Blume’s letter was in support of motherhood, you can read it here for yourself – http://www.ppaction.org/ppvotes/notice-description.tcl?newsletter_id=17513064

I was personally horrified by this sort of behavior and so wrote LifeNews.com this email -

“I want you to know that there is a very large contingent of people (pro-choice or not) who think your outcry against author Judy Blume is outrageous and disgusting. I am personally horrified that you would
set up such a hateful smear campaign against another human being, especially one who has contributed so generously to society, and speaks so lovingly about her own children in the letter supporting Planned Parenthood you find so awful. The fact that you encourage your followers to personally attack another human being makes you as monstrous as you believe those who fight for choice to be.

Neither Blume, nor actor Cynthia Nixon, mentions more women going to Planned Parenthood for abortions in their letters as you claim. In fact, they tout the non-profit organization’s support of motherhood. Just because they also support the right to choose is no reason to twist their words.

I have many words for you, but will refrain from most of them except to say that your organization is despicable and grotesque for your misrepresentation of facts, personal emotions and your dedicated abuse of women’s rights.”

This is the email I received in response from the editor and CEO of LifeNews.com -

“Your harassing and threatening email has been reported to gmail. Do not email again or I will take legal action.”

I do not feel that my email was at all harassing and threatening – it only expressed my disdain for their disgusting tactics. Afterall, this is an organization that encouraged its followers to harass and threaten another person and provided contact information in order to do so – and they call me threatening?

If you are as outraged as I am about these kinds of fearmongering bullies, pllease take a moment to react in some way.

Thank you.

You know that there is prejudice & manipulation at work when they constantly assure you that you are ‘too fat’ for surgery which you actually NEED, then try to pressure you to have WLS.

Patsy Nevins, commenting on “superobesity” at Living ~400lbs

I just read Kate’s entry on diet and fitness guru Bob Greene’s recent claim (pulled from his ass or at the very least not established fact, as you can see from the information she cites) that yo-yo dieting is actually healthier than maintaining a higher weight. I was thinking about how we are willing to accept the statements of “experts” unquestioningly, and how we are so desperate to believe that permanent weight loss is within reach that we are all too willing to uncritically believe comments like Greene’s, or casual, unsupported claims that lots and lots of people are permanently successful at dieting, which I seem to hear a lot.

As I thought about this, I recalled that I was watching this asinine talk show called The Doctors yesterday, because I was stuck at the car dealership for what turned out to be nearly 4 hours. I had already taken a long walk, so I couldn’t think of anything to do other than sit in the customer lounge and watch questionable midday talk programming. This particular episode behaved much like an infomercial involving that one trainer from The Biggest Loser, and was hosted by a dude in scrubs who appeared to be about 20. (Yes, I know he’s really not. I did do a cursory check of the show’s web site, and the guy is an actual doctor. But he kind of reminds me of either a stereotypical frat boy or Devon from Chuck, except NOT so awesome from what I can tell.)

So anyway, the episode included a segment where they browbeat “Chunky B,” an employee of the show (who admitted to a poor diet, lack of exercise, and not seeing a doctor in 20 years, which, OK, is maybe not such a good idea, but I can understand how it might happen), into agreeing to go on a diet. And because no such dramatic change is complete without public fatty-shaming, they weighed him and checked his body fat percentage, blood pressure, cholesterol, and blood glucose right there on the stage, then made him exercise with the trainer lady to demonstrate how unfit he was.

(Incidentally, I had to laugh when she had him stop exercising and measure his pulse. It was 155, and she said with great alarm “that’s way too high!” First of all, the upper end of my recommended heart rate range during exercise is around 160, so 155 does not seem “call the ambulance” bad to me. Second, I realize I’m kind of unusual and most people have lower resting and active heart rates, but I have been running for a few years now and was a regular gymgoer before that, currently log 20-25 miles a week including running for 90 minutes straight the last couple of Fridays, and I have to consciously work to keep my heart rate down near 155 during my runs! I don’t doubt it would be right up there if someone had me start doing all kinds of crazy strenuous stuff–the point of which on the show was probably “look at the clumsy, out of shape, pathetic fatty!”–without warming up. What if the guy had been thin? Somehow I think she’d have found a way to explain away that “way too high” heart rate.)

Anyway, the results were as follows: body fat percentage, 29; blood pressure, 170/100; cholesterol, 189; LDL, 40; and blood glucose, I can’t remember, but it was quite low in relation to the reference range they showed onscreen. Host dude was unflatteringly deflated and surprised that the cholesterol result was OK (though he seemed happier about the borderline LDL number, no doubt because it better aligned with his worldview) and glucose low (by the way, weren’t these supposed to be fasting tests? Of course, maybe he did fast and they just didn’t mention it). Because we all know that every fat person in the world has clogged arteries and Type II diabetes. Also, I’m not a health professional, but I could envision that being publicly shamed for your weight on national television, in addition to possible miscuffing (this dude had huge tree trunk arms) might account for some of the scary BP number.

Or maybe not; maybe the guy really is at death’s door. The point is, they couldn’t know just by looking at him, and to me the segment just reinforced my and many other fat people’s experience with “experts” and with the medical profession–doctors presume to know that you’re unhealthy before they look at a single test result, and if you raise a legitimate concern–like miscuffing accounting for inflated blood pressure readings or possible hypothyroidism, or a concern that you have tried reasonable measures to lose weight and they don’t seem to be working, or a joint injury that is making exercise painful–their need to keep you from “making excuses” for your weight seems to trump their interest in actually looking into these factors and addressing them.

Of course, it is not a coincidence in my opinion that most doctors, dietitians, and personal trainers are naturally thin (fat people are told they’re unhealthy from Day One, are given no credibility for knowing what constitutes a healthy diet, and are not encouraged to excel at physical challenges and probably couldn’t get hired as a trainer in any case because they don’t look the part), so many seem pretty much unable to see that the relationship between diet, exercise, weight, and health can differ from their own experience. So maybe eating and exercising in a similar way to your doctor or Jillian Michaels will make you thin (especially if you used to be thin and happened to put on weight somewhere along the line). Maybe it will not make you thin, but will improve your health. Maybe that regimen would be actively unhealthy for you.

Perhaps most importantly, maybe the thin guy who is seen at the next appointment has habits that are just as (or more) unhealthy than yours, but your doctor doesn’t ask him about it or suggest changes to his diet or activity because he’s thin, so he must be healthy, right? (Or he simply asks “Are you eating a healthy diet and exercising? Still not smoking? Good for you!” whereas a fat person is grilled in detail about the number of calories she consumes and minutes of aerobic exercise per week that she performs, and more often than not is assumed to be lying about both.) At that point, your doctor’s assumptions have resulted in a disservice both to you AND to the thin guy.

I just think that suspending–even for a few moments–the snap judgment that convinces an “expert” that he or she knows everything about the state of my health just from 1) my appearance, and 2) the weight the nurse entered on the chart, would go a long way toward actually improving fat people’s health, rather than using them to make oneself feel superior or viewing them solely as reflections of statistics and stereotypes. And isn’t that the goal, if “The Doctors” in this case truly care about the well-being of their colleague and friend?

Recent status update from one of my Facebook friends:

One week into Daniel Fast with church…Focus is on prayer but added benefit: I’ve lost 8 pounds so far.

Not that it matters, but this guy is in a very appearance-focused field and does not “need” to lose 8 pounds even if you buy that weight loss should be a goal of everyone who falls above the “normal” BMI range. It just goes to illustrate how weight loss is now considered a positive for everyone (thus paving the way for things like workplace “Biggest Loser”-style weight loss competitions where everyone is supposed to participate regardless of whether they are thin or fat).

Religiously-based methods of dieting where you feel like you’re doing something morally worthwhile by going to Weight Watchers or the gym are also a pet peeve of mine. I am not really of the opinion that it particularly warms God’s heart to see you make it in under 1,200 calories a day, or log an hour on the treadmill as you stare at yourself in the mirror. I am definitely not into telling people how they must spend their time, and I firmly believe that exercise is an important part of my own mental and physical health and valuable for that reason, so I am certainly not minimizing the value of healthy choices–but I think this comes into focus when you ask yourself whether you think God would prefer you spend that hour planning low-carb meals or doing the elliptical (even taking into account the “self-discipline” angle that most people would cite as justification) vs. playing with your kids, volunteering, or visiting shut-ins, for example. People make personal choices, and that is totally fine with me even if those choices “only” benefit themselves, but I am highly skeptical of the idea that something like giving up chocolate for Lent is actually usually “for” Jesus and not just for the benefit of the person making the change. All I would like is to see religious people be able to be realistic and honest about why they really prioritize various goals related to dietary changes, weight loss, or exercise.

So I have no problem with fasting disciplines undertaken for religious reasons, but when you mix something like that up with weight loss or obesity or “health,” it automatically crosses the line to creepy and offputting for me. My FB friend (from what I know of him, anyway… I haven’t spoken to him since high school and didn’t know him well then) is quite devout, and I’m sure he is doing this fast for the “right” reasons, and in any case it’s none of my business if he’s not. But I still wish all the self-righteous weight loss crap–from which it is just a short step to “fatties are consuming all the resources, destroying our environment, and driving up the cost of health care with their immoral gluttony”–weren’t so common a part of this type of undertaking.

It sort of sucks, because although the Daniel chapters referenced by the fast seem often to be used (like so many Bible passages) to advance the agenda of whoever is citing them–to promote vegetarianism, environmentalism, low-calorie diets, or what have you, generally in contrast with the supposed gluttony of royalty, the rich, or present-day society–there is a lot of apparently very healthy food on the Daniel Fast food list (which, since it is a list of “acceptable” foods and a lot of the links associated with it are going to include diet talk, might be triggering, so approach with caution). It’s too bad we can’t all just pursue our goal of good health joyfully–or our goal of religious discipline, as the case may be, deliberately and meditatively–without weight-loss dieting, which in my opinion is antithetical to both goals (because it tends to take the focus off health and onto weight loss for its own sake in the first case, and off God and onto the self in the second) creeping in and ruining everything. As usual.

Michigan State defeats UConn 82-73 in the NCAA semifinal, and we were there in Detroit to watch them do it in person! Impossible, eh, Digger? I always love my university, but today is an especially great day to be a Spartan!

Video

On the banks of the Red Cedar,

There’s a school that’s known to all.

Its specialty is winning, and those Spartans play good ball.

Spartan teams are never beaten,

All through the game they fight

Fight for the only colors, green and white.

Go right through for MSU! Watch the points keep growing!

Spartan teams are bound to win–they’re fighting with a vim! Rah! Rah! Rah!

See their team is weakening

We’re going to win this game!

Fight! Fight! Rah! Team! Fight!

Victory for MSU!

I received a promotional email from Title Nine today about their swimwear. So what’s wrong with this picture?

Title Nine swimwear email

I’m guessing even without my helpful editing, it wouldn’t have taken you too long to figure it out. Title Nine is pretty much the antithesis of “all shapes and sizes.” And I say this as an admirer of their company and as a customer (when I can afford it, usually at clearance, because their prices are pretty much insane). Of course, the only reason I could speak from that position of relative leverage in my response to them below is because I happen to fit into their clothes right now. How deliciously ironic (as the Robot Devil might say).

Anyway, here’s the email I sent:

I am writing to comment on the fact that your recent email advertising the 2009 swimwear collection was headed “Swimwear in all shapes & sizes.” This is laughable coming from T9, which is famous for a complete lack of diversity both in its product sizing and that of the models/athletes featured in its catalogs.

(Incidentally, those models–and I realize they are not “models” per se, but that’s how they function in the catalog–are also usually quite racially homogeneous, and other differences including age and disability are not addressed at all. I appreciate T9’s use of a more athletic, fit, active “look” in presentation of its products, but I would suggest that you are simply substituting another difficult-to-attain aesthetic for the usual super-thin catalog model, when the emphasis should be on function. I’m sure your customers come in a wide variety of sizes and even among the very fit and competitive, not all are a tan, weathered size 2 with 6-pack abs.)

Getting back to the issue at hand, I happen to fit into your swimwear, so the email subject line I mentioned does not affect me personally, but I know a number of active women who love the outdoors and participating in sports who simply throw your catalog in the trash without opening it, because the sizing range is even more restrictive than that of most women’s clothing lines (e.g. a large or XL often represents anywhere from a 10-14, and in my experience the sizing tends to run small even within that range), and there is not a single garment in the catalog that comes anywhere close to fitting them.

I love your quality and focus on women’s health, strength, and achievement, and I admire T9’s commitment to customer service and involvement with women and its community. I would, however, encourage you to blaze a trail by selling clothes that active larger women can wear and enjoy–and by that I mean a full selection of your regular and most popular items in the full range of colors for extended sizes, rather than the usual trajectory for plus size lines at major retailers (that is, halfheartedly offering one or two unattractive, dumpy selections in a limited color selection, followed by poor sales, a quick discontinuation of plus sizes and a bewildered claim that there must just not be a market for the stuff because nobody’s buying it).

Or if you can’t do that, then at least refrain from blatantly false claim that “all shapes and sizes” of women are represented by the narrow range of swimwear sizing offered by T9, when in reality even the average American woman is probably near the top of your swimwear size range. I know this one email subject line is just a few words and easy to overlook–in theory, as a woman who fits into your clothes, it would be fairly easy for me to overlook too. But for larger straight-sized and plus-sized women looking for high-quality sports attire that is pretty much nonexistent in their size range, the subject line demonstrates once again that in retailers’ eyes, they (and their clothing and equipment budget) are invisible, unimportant, and unwanted. Thank you for your consideration of this matter.

Feel free to lend your voice if you like using their email contact form. I don’t think they’re an evil company, and I do appreciate the fact that models in their catalog are allowed to have wrinkles and not be blonde, and their attempts to promote an aesthetic of strength, health, and accomplishment rather than simply that of decorative thinness, devoid of normal “flaws” and bodily variation, which is more like what you see in most women’s catalogs. I just think they’re a little clueless that not every female athlete or fitness enthusiast is as thin (not to mention as well-off, able-bodied, and–almost always–white) as their featured athlete/models. Of course, it amounts to pretty much the same thing from a customer’s standpoint, if the functional sports apparel you’re looking for literally does not exist in your size.

ETA: I received the following response today (4/1) from Title Nine customer service (as I said, I do think they are a good and service-oriented company). However, I’ve been receiving their catalog for years with no sign of an expanded size range yet, so who knows when or if they will ever actually start doing this.

Thanks for contacting us. Please know that we would love to be able to carry so much more as far as sizes and styles. We definitely don’t mean to exclude anyone and encourage women of all shapes and sized  to stay active and fit.  You might be surprised but we have quite a range of ladies her at title nine from size 0 to 16+, from petite to tall, and muscular to skinny.

We actually get a lot of requests from women of all shapes and sizes (including us here in the office) requesting that we carry a wider range of sizes including petite, plus, and tall. Unfortunately, we just don’t have the warehouse space right now to stock as much inventory as we’d like.  We’re hopeful that as we continue to grow as a company that we will be able to offer a wider range of sizes to accommodate the needs of more active women of all shapes and sizes.

If you’re coming from the Fatosphere feed, you’ve already seen this, but please check out Rachel’s post on the Academy for Eating Disorder’s new guidelines for childhood obesity prevention programs. According to Deb Burgard, who was on the panel that developed the guidelines and who commented at The-F-Word.org post, the AED is “the premier international association of academic and clinical eating disorder specialists.”

Just read the guidelines, and imagine a world where they are implemented. A world where kids aren’t scapegoated, othered, or punished for being fat, but are taught and encouraged in healthy habits and activities just like the thin kids. Blub. It makes the world we actually live in (where kids are sent home with shaming notes about their weight and encouraged into dangerous weight loss surgeries… in fact, a world where low self-esteem is blamed on fat itself instead of on anti-fat bullying and harassment where it belongs, and where kids can actually be taken away from their parents on presumption of “abuse” simply because they are fat) seem like a bad dream. I hope one day that’s all it will be.

I  never saw this clip before now (I don’t follow the Pistons that closely). Love Rasheed’s 3/4 court buzzer beater–OK, I also just kind of love Rasheed in general–and Special K’s reaction. It puts a smile on my face. :)

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